Do you still feel guilty about things that happened long ago?
This is something I often come across when working as a counsellor and it doesn’t have to be this way. Feeling guilty for things in the past keeps us stuck in a place of having done something wrong, along with the negative self talk and feelings that go with it. When we feel guilty it’s as though we can never get past it.
Guilt as an emotion prompts us to correct something we’ve done wrong and make amends. For example, if we’ve said something hurtful to a loved one, guilt prompts us to apologize and repair the relationship. Often the things we say we still feel guilty about are situations that we have corrected, but we still feel bad about them. So how do we move past this?
By acknowledging the sense of regret that we still feel about the situation.
Regret describes disappointment, remorse or sadness about the situation. Acknowledging and experiencing these feelings can give us a more compassionate view of ourselves, making room for forgiveness and comfort that couldn’t be experienced while we were still stuck in guilt. It’s this compassion for self that can move us beyond guilt to healing the past.
If this is something you would like to explore further with a counsellor contact Breathe Counselling to make an appointment.
Breathe Counselling Rockingham
Nick offers clinical supervision and counselling in the Perth CBD, Rockingham and Online. He is an exceptionally skilled and compassionate counsellor and psychotherapist with over 20 years’ professional experience. He is also an active member of the Australian Counselling Association. Nick has a substantial background in both private practice and the community health and education sectors. He specialises in supporting young people, individual adults, couples and families. Nick particularly enjoys relationship and marriage counselling, assisting couples overcome relationship barriers to gain greater intimacy.