A few years ago, someone close to me went through some medical treatment that inhibited their ability to leave their home for an extended period of time. During this period, aside from immediate family, they connected with friends and family through online technology, social media and telephone. Interestingly, this person emerged out of the other…

Do you ever find yourself in a conflict with your partner, friend or family member, where it seems the only options are to either say nothing (stonewall), push the issue (argue) or cut the person off completely (divorce, separation, estrangement etc.) ??? You can feel as though nothing you can do will work with this…

One of the things I notice when I do couples counselling, is the oft-repeated human condition that epitomises the ancient proverb: “every person is right in their own eyes.” There are always two realities, two perspectives, two opinions that often don’t match. The anatomy of a conflict, in some way, shape or form is going…

I don’t work Fridays. As far as vocational activity goes, on a Friday, you can stick it. Today (Friday) as I was riding my bike along the waterfront to catch up with a mate for coffee, I noticed that the tide was so high, it was covering the jetty. As I looked at it, this…

C.S. Lewis once said, “Friendship is born at the moment when one person says to another: “What! You too? I thought I was the only one.” The importance of true friends can’t be overstated. Life is intrinsically richer with them and painfully poorer without them. The presence of ‘true friends,’ value-adds to our experience as…

‘Re-wiring’ is a name used by counsellors, psychologists and coaches to describe a number of therapy models that are focused on helping people to think and subsequently behave differently. They generally incorporate and integrate variations of Cognitive Behaviour Therapy(CBT) with other therapy models. The name is drawn from the concept of re-wiring your brain through practices…

Sometimes I look at strangers’ faces,and try to guess what is going on in their worlds. Often times, the faces I look at seem to tell untold stories of grief and pain, quiet desperation and aching loneliness. Other times the faces narrate unbridled joy and felicity. But a common story I read on the faces…

There are several things that I’m really thankful to my parents for, aside from giving birth to me of course…  The fact that we never got a TV until I was about 12 is one of them. Whilst at the time, I wasn’t always thrilled about this fact, in retrospect I am grateful… for a…