you don't have to be alone in your pain

You Dont Have to Be Alone in Your Pain I was surfing at one of my favourite breaks down south with a mate a couple of years ago, and it was really good. Pristine, turquoise water, light offshore wind, solid size without being scary. I was super happy to be out there and was looking … Read more

Nature and Mental Health

The Importance of Nature

An increasing body of empirical evidence is showing us the value of nature with regards to mental health. It would seem to most of us as a ‘no brainer’ that interactions with the outdoor environs of oceans, forests, mountains and even your own back garden if you have one, can make you feel better… but … Read more

Reflecting on Your Mental Wellbeing by Ryan Hill

Ryan Hill Perth Counsellor

Being honest about one’s mental wellbeing and adopting strategies to maintain your mental health not only ensures accountability to one’s own values, morals and personal code of ethics, but also ensures you live a happy healthy life with those around you. Historically people have sought this support through their faith (mentoring or confession through religious … Read more

Where There is Humility, There is Hope

Humility

Sometimes I say to couples that I’m doing relationship counselling with, “Where there is humility, there is hope.” This is is usually responded to with the question, “What do you mean?” Humility is a multidimensional characteristic, but at its core it is about identity. It is about how a person perceives themselves. A humble person … Read more

The Power of Mindfulness

mindfulness perth

In times of hardship and uncertainty, it is common to notice our minds wandering off to create thoughts and stories which can be destructive to our wellbeing. As humans, we can experience fearing the unknown and a lack of control over our environment. These experiences can influence psychological, emotional and physical aspects of our wellbeing. … Read more

Online Counselling

online counselling

A few years ago, someone close to me went through some medical treatment that inhibited their ability to leave their home for an extended period of time. During this period, aside from immediate family, they connected with friends and family through online technology, social media and telephone. Interestingly, this person emerged out of the other … Read more

Emotional Calm

John Gottman talks about three ingredients to a healthy, happy relationship. These are: Trust Commitment Emotional Calm We build trust primarily through turning towards our partner’s and building consistent and safe connection through authenticity, empathy, kindness and validation. Trust seems to be something that we feel, it is about attunement. Commitment on the other hand … Read more

Two Sides To Every Story

Conflict Management

One of the things I notice when I do couples counselling, is the oft-repeated human condition that epitomises the ancient proverb: “every person is right in their own eyes.” There are always two realities, two perspectives, two opinions that often don’t match. The anatomy of a conflict, in some way, shape or form is going … Read more

Leaders Look After Yourselves!

leadership and self care

I don’t work Fridays. As far as vocational activity goes, on a Friday, you can stick it. Today (Friday) as I was riding my bike along the waterfront to catch up with a mate for coffee, I noticed that the tide was so high, it was covering the jetty. As I looked at it, this … Read more