Online Counselling

online counselling

A few years ago, someone close to me went through some medical treatment that inhibited their ability to leave their home for an extended period of time. During this period, aside from immediate family, they connected with friends and family through online technology, social media and telephone. Interestingly, this person emerged out of the other … Read more

Emotional Calm

John Gottman talks about three ingredients to a healthy, happy relationship. These are: Trust Commitment Emotional Calm We build trust primarily through turning towards our partner’s and building consistent and safe connection through authenticity, empathy, kindness and validation. Trust seems to be something that we feel, it is about attunement. Commitment on the other hand … Read more

Two Sides To Every Story

Conflict Management

One of the things I notice when I do couples counselling, is the oft-repeated human condition that epitomises the ancient proverb: “every person is right in their own eyes.” There are always two realities, two perspectives, two opinions that often don’t match. The anatomy of a conflict, in some way, shape or form is going … Read more

Research Informed Practice with Re-coupled Partners

Perth Counsellor Ryan Hill

By Ryan Hill Human’s most intimate social environment is the family unit. There were 46,604 nationally registered divorces in Australia in 2016 (Australian Bureau of Statistics, 2017). Martin-Uzzi and Duval-Tsioles (2013) point out 75% of individual’s who divorce will remarry. In 2016 in Australia, 30% of marriages recorded consisted of one or both partners in … Read more

Health and Trauma

Ryan Hill Breathe Counselling Perth

By Ryan Hill MA Social Work , B. Psych.Sc I have worked with a number of clients who have experienced past trauma in my counselling practice. Trauma-informed practice is imperative to prevent unwittingly retraumatising clients, however clinicians must always be aware they may unwittingly trigger clients defence mechanisms. Therefore an awareness of childhood and adult … Read more

True Friends

friendship and mental health

C.S. Lewis once said, “Friendship is born at the moment when one person says to another: “What! You too? I thought I was the only one.” The importance of true friends can’t be overstated. Life is intrinsically richer with them and painfully poorer without them. The presence of ‘true friends,’ value-adds to our experience as … Read more

Re-wiring

rewiring

‘Re-wiring’ is a name used by counsellors, psychologists and coaches to describe a number of therapy models that are focused on helping people to think and subsequently behave differently. They generally incorporate and integrate variations of Cognitive Behaviour Therapy(CBT) with other therapy models. The name is drawn from the concept of re-wiring your brain through practices … Read more

Rest

learning how to rest

Sometimes I look at strangers’ faces,and try to guess what is going on in their worlds. Often times, the faces I look at seem to tell untold stories of grief and pain, quiet desperation and aching loneliness. Other times the faces narrate unbridled joy and felicity. But a common story I read on the faces … Read more