Mothers Day

Mothers Day

To all the wonderful mums out there I’d like to offer you the honour and respect that is due you. The art of noble motherhood is one of the wonders of the world and in action to view, something beautiful. The love of a mother is utterly unique. In the English language we only have … Read more

You Don’t Have to Be Alone in Your Pain

you don't have to be alone in your pain

I was surfing at one of my favourite breaks down south with a mate a couple of years ago, and it was really good. Pristine, turquoise water, light offshore wind, solid size without being scary. I was super happy to be out there and was looking forward to a morning of ‘water therapy’. However, my … Read more

Two Sides To Every Story

Conflict Management

One of the things I notice when I do couples counselling, is the oft-repeated human condition that epitomises the ancient proverb: “every person is right in their own eyes.” There are always two realities, two perspectives, two opinions that often don’t match. The anatomy of a conflict, in some way, shape or form is going … Read more

Leaders Look After Yourselves!

leadership and self care

I don’t work Fridays. As far as vocational activity goes, on a Friday, you can stick it. Today (Friday) as I was riding my bike along the waterfront to catch up with a mate for coffee, I noticed that the tide was so high, it was covering the jetty. As I looked at it, this … Read more

True Friends

friendship and mental health

C.S. Lewis once said, “Friendship is born at the moment when one person says to another: “What! You too? I thought I was the only one.” The importance of true friends can’t be overstated. Life is intrinsically richer with them and painfully poorer without them. The presence of ‘true friends,’ value-adds to our experience as … Read more

Re-wiring

rewiring

‘Re-wiring’ is a name used by counsellors, psychologists and coaches to describe a number of therapy models that are focused on helping people to think and subsequently behave differently. They generally incorporate and integrate variations of Cognitive Behaviour Therapy(CBT) with other therapy models. The name is drawn from the concept of re-wiring your brain through practices … Read more

Rest

learning how to rest

Sometimes I look at strangers’ faces,and try to guess what is going on in their worlds. Often times, the faces I look at seem to tell untold stories of grief and pain, quiet desperation and aching loneliness. Other times the faces narrate unbridled joy and felicity. But a common story I read on the faces … Read more

Mental Health and Recreation

Mental Health and Recreation

There are several things that I’m really thankful to my parents for, aside from giving birth to me of course…  The fact that we never got a TV until I was about 12 is one of them. Whilst at the time, I wasn’t always thrilled about this fact, in retrospect I am grateful… for a … Read more

Overcoming Inferiority

Overcoming Inferiority

Do any of the following symptoms exist in your life? performance orientation drivenness anxiety insecurity over-competitiveness gossip putting others down (tall poppy syndrome) retreating from life a sense of ‘not measuring up’ a false sense of superiority If so, you may be struggling with inferiority. The Cambridge Dictionary describes this as a feeling that you are not as … Read more